Wednesday, 25 December 2013

More Reasons to Hate Social Networking

People use social media to vent, and although I don't mind reading people's displaced passive aggressiveness, I realised that something was clearly wrong here, and that's it: the passive aggressiveness, it's exhausting! Subliminal taunts thrown across the internet, with the marginal hope that the offender will read them, but why? To hurt them? These actions are only followed by a string of rebuttals from the offender; sometimes I wonder, how old are we really? After everything we have been through as a race, has it all really boiled down to this? An "I really hate certain people" tweet? Nice!

Embedded image permalinkI am frankly quite bored of reading passive aggressive updates. I am bored of reading other's people tweets/statuses and wondering who they could be about, I cannot think of a worse way of dedicating your mental energy towards! I'm bored of the "I'm so sad" tweets and the "I'm so happy" tweets, they are so frequent, one would be inclined to believe they were suffering from a paroxysm of extreme emotions every hour. I'm bored of someone reading this article right now, thinking that I'm writing about them, well no need to fret, because I'm not writing this article with anyone in mind (but if the shoe fits... haha).

Happy updates. We've all seen them, the "I'm so happy right now"'s, and the "never been happier!"'s. Now I don't have a problem with people being happy, of course, but it's when people put on a show and simply say these things to impress others. If you're really that happy, then just enjoy the moment, why digress? Nowadays, people feel the need to announce to the world that they're happy, that they're lives are going well and fine and that they're content. For me, I see it as simply another form of gloating, "look at me! I'm so happy!" There is a ludicrous protocol lying underneath all of this, and that is if you are not telling everyone about how happy/wonderful/amazing you are, then you may as well not be happy/wonderful/amazing to begin with. How ridiculous too, that this hidden universal protocol is followed religiously by many people on the internet.

This idea of missing out on something, the imminent fear of being branded an 'outcast' through a screen, it's simply a fear we are feeding into. Naturally, we would not want to feel like our lives are somewhat any less better than anyone else's, we don't want to feel like we're missing out on something. Hence, this is why some people feel the need to let the internet know that they're happy, to remind everyone they're not missing out on anything. It all sounds crazy, and I prompt you for alternate theories, but really, this is the reality of the matter. Of course, there is always another side, perhaps these 'happy updates' are a by-product of our narcissism. I have previously discussed how we are a generation of millennials full of pride and egoism. Perhaps it is our self-entitled agenda manifest again, we feel that we have a right to let the world know of our wonderful lives, since our opinions are that important to everyone.
Social media websites like Facebook are simply stages for showing off. Everyone is acting and pretending, following the unspoken protocol. Typing to impress rather than express, sucking up to and flattering mere nobodies in a vain attempt to gain some attention. A stage for people pretending to like each other, pretending to seem sociable and outgoing, when in reality, they are the exact opposite of what they say they are. I must admit, I do find it odd when I come across naturally introverted people who transform into rather boisterous beings on the internet. Is it really a good thing to see naturally introverted people transformed into these sociable busybodies behind a screen? Although social media could be seen as an outlet for people to express themselves, what is the point of it if people are not going to act like themselves?

Perhaps I have digressed a little, but don't think I have forgotten to bring up those dreaded "I really hate some people" tweets! On a serious note, what is the purpose behind those kind of tweets? My own moral philosophy regarding this kind of venting is plain and simple: if you have a problem with somebody, then you pick it up with that somebody, not with the 554 million innocent people on Twitter, or whatever the website is in this context. Indirect statements are cowardly, and rather than coming across as agreeable, the 554 million Twitter users will be inclined to think you are simply bitter. And annoying.

So if we are not trying to brag about ourselves and our lives on the internet, then we are inherently stalking everyone else who does. Accompanied with an interlude of slyly indirect comments bitterly thrown across the internet, and there we have it: social networking! Of course, in my hyperbolic manner, I make social networking seem like a battle ground rather than a friendly place to connect with new people, as it is so strongly marketed as. Albeit, it is not all doom and gloom, like me, you can enjoy reading people's status updates from a comical perspective, (it is all rather entertaining, really) and then put all your thoughts together and type them up in a fancy article; afterall, it all makes great writing material, evidently!

Logging off,

Miss Iffa

Saturday, 14 December 2013

Christmas Jumper Day

Jumper - Fortis Young Enterprise - £10!
Coat - Topshop


A quick blog post today, apologies if the pictures came out a little blurry, and for the fact that I look like a mess, and perhaps a little glum too for no intention or fair reasoning at all! Despite this, as some of you may know, today is National Christmas Jumper Day! This great concept was coined by a wonderful charity called Save the Children, who aim to provide children in poverty-stricken areas with better education and healthcare. As a means of highlighting this worthy cause, I thought I'd do a quick blog post. It was pretty dark at the time these photos were taken, hence why I had to take them indoors, albeit, I won't deny the fact I thoroughly enjoyed the warmth of being under a roof for blog photos!

My Young Enterprise team (Fortis) and I have been selling Christmas jumpers, and in a matter of only two days, we managed to sell out three times! My team and I are working really hard to fund our project, I cannot disclose a lot of information about what our project is right now, but I can tell you it's a pretty sweet idea! Do help support, it would be amazing if you could like us on Facebook, follow us on Twitter or even just visit our website, that would be great!

This week has been ridiculously hectic, but in all the best ways, I love keeping myself busy with lots of different things; I'm not the kind of person who could just sit around doing nothing. Albeit, I think you need to make time for the things you enjoy doing, which for me are things like reading and blogging; hence why I am sat here typing away for this here blob.

On a final note, I just wanted to say thank you for the wonderfully positive response I received from my previous article (read it here), it was really lovely, and it was a whole other kind of lovely to see people appreciate writing style. I am ridiculously fortunate to have a readership as kind, agreeable and all-around wonderful as you guys! ♥ (allow the cheesiness)

Love from,

Miss Iffa

Sunday, 8 December 2013

The Me Me Me Generation

A slightly different blog post than usual, but this is a matter which struck my mind some time ago, and thereupon researching, found hardly any tangible resources. This article (which my good friend Sanya will find useful for when writing her public speaking speech) is not intended to be a smear article, rather my own enlightenment on an issue which I feel has been sensationalised by the masses.

Firstly, let me present you with the cold hard facts: narcissistic personality disorder is nearly three times as high for people in their 20s as for the generation that's now 65 or older. 40% of millennials believe they should be promoted every two years, regardless of performance. When faced with a moral dilemma, 60% of millennials believe that they will be able to just "feel" what's right. If you have not yet caught the gist of this article, then allow me to present it as simply as possible: we are a generation of selfie-obsessed, self-entitled twerking narcissists.

Illustration by Emma D.
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Before I hear complaints on this rather sweeping generalisation, and I admit it is a rather sweeping generalisation, I would like to remind you that I myself am a member of this generation, and hence I am involved in the ins and outs of its happenings. We live in a generation where you are judged by your Facebook/Twitter/Instagram feed, and apparently, your personality can firmly be established just by a few nonchalant conversations partaken online. Now I am not in any way denouncing social networking, rather, just some of the close-minded people who use it. It all seems rather ridiculous to me, and that is probably because it is nothing but ridiculous.

We live in a generation where it's seen as "cool" to be "uncool". By the looks of it, you won't find these "cool" kids near anything "mainstream", simply because, it's cool to be "different". Although I fully advocate individuality, I think the whole notion of being unique has been lost within this forced pretence of trying to be different. Individuality essentially comes best to people who are simply themselves, whether this means you are at the pinnacle of a stereotype or the furthest thing from it; that part really doesn't matter. What does matter is this slightly odd undercurrent of self-entitlement which runs through many of these "cool kids". This idea of being better than someone else, just because you don't do what everyone else does, is totally abhorrent!

Illustration by Caitlin.
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Take for example, the concept of the "nerd". Now firstly, let us establish the definition of the word nerd, as the definition itself has been the cause of an unscrupulous debate: "a person who is socially awkward and unpopular, an intelligent person who does not fit in with other people". For some reason this very concept has been the cause of a few colourful debates, (one debate ended with said fellow pitifully trying to alter the very definition of the word!) and has also sparked the topic of my good friend Sanya's public speaking speech. ("Is it cool to be clever?") Frankly, I find nerdism, (a term cleverly coined by my good friend Sanya) rather foolish. Nowadays, what is a nerd? A person who watches TV shows that nobody else watches? A person who reads book? Prides themselves in being socially awkward? Or is it really the pinnacle of narcissism? Surely, by calling oneself a "nerd", one is implying that they are oh so clever and unique, consigning themselves to this whole notion of being "cool" because they're "uncool". Collate this concept with my ideas shared in the previous paragraph, and it is a no-brainer really as to why I think nerdism is silly. Nerd culture is probably one of the most irritable and pointless concepts I have come across. What is more doltish and slyly self-indulgent, than calling yourself a nerd? Not much.

The original point of this article has perhaps been diluted somewhere, probably somewhere in that rather controversial rant-y paragraphy regarding nerd culture. My opinion of millennials, as a millennial myself, is certainly not a bad one. Although we are a generation full of faults, there has never been a generation that isn't. Yes, there's a stack of data suggesting how narcissistic and lazy and self-entitled we are, and indeed, many of us are, but beyond the statistics; the greatness of a generation cannot be determined through numbers, but by practices and stories, by undertaking great challenges and successfully carrying them through. 80 million strong, millennials are open-minded, welcoming to multi-culturalism and certainly possess the characteristics of a bold and daring generation. I genuinely do believe in our generation, and God knows our generation certainly believe in our generation.

Love from,

Miss Iffa
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