Wednesday, 25 December 2013

More Reasons to Hate Social Networking

People use social media to vent, and although I don't mind reading people's displaced passive aggressiveness, I realised that something was clearly wrong here, and that's it: the passive aggressiveness, it's exhausting! Subliminal taunts thrown across the internet, with the marginal hope that the offender will read them, but why? To hurt them? These actions are only followed by a string of rebuttals from the offender; sometimes I wonder, how old are we really? After everything we have been through as a race, has it all really boiled down to this? An "I really hate certain people" tweet? Nice!

Embedded image permalinkI am frankly quite bored of reading passive aggressive updates. I am bored of reading other's people tweets/statuses and wondering who they could be about, I cannot think of a worse way of dedicating your mental energy towards! I'm bored of the "I'm so sad" tweets and the "I'm so happy" tweets, they are so frequent, one would be inclined to believe they were suffering from a paroxysm of extreme emotions every hour. I'm bored of someone reading this article right now, thinking that I'm writing about them, well no need to fret, because I'm not writing this article with anyone in mind (but if the shoe fits... haha).

Happy updates. We've all seen them, the "I'm so happy right now"'s, and the "never been happier!"'s. Now I don't have a problem with people being happy, of course, but it's when people put on a show and simply say these things to impress others. If you're really that happy, then just enjoy the moment, why digress? Nowadays, people feel the need to announce to the world that they're happy, that they're lives are going well and fine and that they're content. For me, I see it as simply another form of gloating, "look at me! I'm so happy!" There is a ludicrous protocol lying underneath all of this, and that is if you are not telling everyone about how happy/wonderful/amazing you are, then you may as well not be happy/wonderful/amazing to begin with. How ridiculous too, that this hidden universal protocol is followed religiously by many people on the internet.

This idea of missing out on something, the imminent fear of being branded an 'outcast' through a screen, it's simply a fear we are feeding into. Naturally, we would not want to feel like our lives are somewhat any less better than anyone else's, we don't want to feel like we're missing out on something. Hence, this is why some people feel the need to let the internet know that they're happy, to remind everyone they're not missing out on anything. It all sounds crazy, and I prompt you for alternate theories, but really, this is the reality of the matter. Of course, there is always another side, perhaps these 'happy updates' are a by-product of our narcissism. I have previously discussed how we are a generation of millennials full of pride and egoism. Perhaps it is our self-entitled agenda manifest again, we feel that we have a right to let the world know of our wonderful lives, since our opinions are that important to everyone.
Social media websites like Facebook are simply stages for showing off. Everyone is acting and pretending, following the unspoken protocol. Typing to impress rather than express, sucking up to and flattering mere nobodies in a vain attempt to gain some attention. A stage for people pretending to like each other, pretending to seem sociable and outgoing, when in reality, they are the exact opposite of what they say they are. I must admit, I do find it odd when I come across naturally introverted people who transform into rather boisterous beings on the internet. Is it really a good thing to see naturally introverted people transformed into these sociable busybodies behind a screen? Although social media could be seen as an outlet for people to express themselves, what is the point of it if people are not going to act like themselves?

Perhaps I have digressed a little, but don't think I have forgotten to bring up those dreaded "I really hate some people" tweets! On a serious note, what is the purpose behind those kind of tweets? My own moral philosophy regarding this kind of venting is plain and simple: if you have a problem with somebody, then you pick it up with that somebody, not with the 554 million innocent people on Twitter, or whatever the website is in this context. Indirect statements are cowardly, and rather than coming across as agreeable, the 554 million Twitter users will be inclined to think you are simply bitter. And annoying.

So if we are not trying to brag about ourselves and our lives on the internet, then we are inherently stalking everyone else who does. Accompanied with an interlude of slyly indirect comments bitterly thrown across the internet, and there we have it: social networking! Of course, in my hyperbolic manner, I make social networking seem like a battle ground rather than a friendly place to connect with new people, as it is so strongly marketed as. Albeit, it is not all doom and gloom, like me, you can enjoy reading people's status updates from a comical perspective, (it is all rather entertaining, really) and then put all your thoughts together and type them up in a fancy article; afterall, it all makes great writing material, evidently!

Logging off,

Miss Iffa
xoxo
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Saturday, 14 December 2013

Christmas Jumper Day


Jumper - Fortis Young Enterprise - £10!
Coat - Topshop

Hello!

A quick blog post today, apologies if the pictures came out a little blurry, and for the fact that I look like a mess, and perhaps a little glum too for no intention or fair reasoning at all! Despite this, as some of you may know, today is National Christmas Jumper Day! This great concept was coined by a wonderful charity called Save the Children, who aim to provide children in poverty-stricken areas with better education and healthcare. As a means of highlighting this worthy cause, I thought I'd do a quick blog post. It was pretty dark at the time these photos were taken, hence why I had to take them indoors, albeit, I won't deny the fact I thoroughly enjoyed the warmth of being under a roof for blog photos!

My Young Enterprise team (Fortis) and I have been selling Christmas jumpers, and in a matter of only two days, we managed to sell out three times! My team and I are working really hard to fund our project, I cannot disclose a lot of information about what our project is right now, but I can tell you it's a pretty sweet idea! Do help support, it would be amazing if you could like us on Facebook, follow us on Twitter or even just visit our website, that would be great!

This week has been ridiculously hectic, but in all the best ways, I love keeping myself busy with lots of different things; I'm not the kind of person who could just sit around doing nothing. Albeit, I think you need to make time for the things you enjoy doing, which for me are things like reading and blogging; hence why I am sat here typing away for this here blob.

On a final note, I just wanted to say thank you for the wonderfully positive response I received from my previous article (read it here), it was really lovely, and it was a whole other kind of lovely to see people appreciate writing style. I am ridiculously fortunate to have a readership as kind, agreeable and all-around wonderful as you guys! ♥ (allow the cheesiness)

Love from,

Miss Iffa
xoxo
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Sunday, 8 December 2013

The Me Me Me Generation

A slightly different blog post than usual, but this is a matter which struck my mind some time ago, and thereupon researching, found hardly any tangible resources. This article (which my good friend Sanya will find useful for when writing her public speaking speech) is not intended to be a smear article, rather my own enlightenment on an issue which I feel has been sensationalised by the masses.

Firstly, let me present you with the cold hard facts: narcissistic personality disorder is nearly three times as high for people in their 20s as for the generation that's now 65 or older. 40% of millennials believe they should be promoted every two years, regardless of performance. When faced with a moral dilemma, 60% of millennials believe that they will be able to just "feel" what's right. If you have not yet caught the gist of this article, then allow me to present it as simply as possible: we are a generation of selfie-obsessed, self-entitled twerking narcissists.

Illustration by Emma D.
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Before I hear complaints on this rather sweeping generalisation, and I admit it is a rather sweeping generalisation, I would like to remind you that I myself am a member of this generation, and hence I am involved in the ins and outs of its happenings. We live in a generation where you are judged by your Facebook/Twitter/Instagram feed, and apparently, your personality can firmly be established just by a few nonchalant conversations partaken online. Now I am not in any way denouncing social networking, rather, just some of the close-minded people who use it. It all seems rather ridiculous to me, and that is probably because it is nothing but ridiculous.

We live in a generation where it's seen as "cool" to be "uncool". By the looks of it, you won't find these "cool" kids near anything "mainstream", simply because, it's cool to be "different". Although I fully advocate individuality, I think the whole notion of being unique has been lost within this forced pretence of trying to be different. Individuality essentially comes best to people who are simply themselves, whether this means you are at the pinnacle of a stereotype or the furthest thing from it; that part really doesn't matter. What does matter is this slightly odd undercurrent of self-entitlement which runs through many of these "cool kids". This idea of being better than someone else, just because you don't do what everyone else does, is totally abhorrent!

Illustration by Caitlin.
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Take for example, the concept of the "nerd". Now firstly, let us establish the definition of the word nerd, as the definition itself has been the cause of an unscrupulous debate: "a person who is socially awkward and unpopular, an intelligent person who does not fit in with other people". For some reason this very concept has been the cause of a few colourful debates, (one debate ended with said fellow pitifully trying to alter the very definition of the word!) and has also sparked the topic of my good friend Sanya's public speaking speech. ("Is it cool to be clever?") Frankly, I find nerdism, (a term cleverly coined by my good friend Sanya) rather foolish. Nowadays, what is a nerd? A person who watches TV shows that nobody else watches? A person who reads book? Prides themselves in being socially awkward? Or is it really the pinnacle of narcissism? Surely, by calling oneself a "nerd", one is implying that they are oh so clever and unique, consigning themselves to this whole notion of being "cool" because they're "uncool". Collate this concept with my ideas shared in the previous paragraph, and it is a no-brainer really as to why I think nerdism is silly. Nerd culture is probably one of the most irritable and pointless concepts I have come across. What is more doltish and slyly self-indulgent, than calling yourself a nerd? Not much.

The original point of this article has perhaps been diluted somewhere, probably somewhere in that rather controversial rant-y paragraphy regarding nerd culture. My opinion of millennials, as a millennial myself, is certainly not a bad one. Although we are a generation full of faults, there has never been a generation that isn't. Yes, there's a stack of data suggesting how narcissistic and lazy and self-entitled we are, and indeed, many of us are, but beyond the statistics; the greatness of a generation cannot be determined through numbers, but by practices and stories, by undertaking great challenges and successfully carrying them through. 80 million strong, millennials are open-minded, welcoming to multi-culturalism and certainly possess the characteristics of a bold and daring generation. I genuinely do believe in our generation, and God knows our generation certainly believe in our generation.

Love from,

Miss Iffa
xoxo
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Sunday, 24 November 2013

Partially Suited


Coat - Zara
Jumper - Topshop
Collar shirt- Zara
Trousers - Zara
Necklaces - assorted vintage
Boots - Koi Couture

Hello!

I cannot deny, every autumn/winter, I develop an affinity for the colour black. I am convinced I am not alone with this obsession, as this season sees a number of black-clad people roaming. Black is a staple colour for the cooler seasons, be it in suede or velvet, leather or wool, for every garment, black is the default, and it is not difficult to understand why.

These photos may appear a little monotonous, for the simple reason that I was far too cold to take off my coat! I was wearing a wonderfully soft angora jumper. To save myself from the effort of choosing a matching scarf, I went for a classic white collared shirt to wear underneath. I bought these suit trousers from Zara quite a while ago now, but the thick material is a god send for when the temperature drops. I find that skinny jeans are awful at keeping me warm, but maybe that's just the jeans I wear.

These buckle chelsea ankle boots are a recent addition to my wardrobe. I love the cut out style, which you can't see very well in these pictures, thanks to the fact I wisely chose to wear black socks. Nevertheless, these are probably my favourite chelsea ankle boots so far off this season; I do believe you can be this specific when it comes to boots, simply because there are so many different shapes and styles.

Love from,

Miss Iffa
xoxo
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Thursday, 7 November 2013

Best Of: Knitwear

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Whilst procrastinating on the internet, I happened to come across some beautiful statement knitwear pieces on Romwe; hence I continued this round of procrastination by compiling said favourite statements into a little blog post. Romwe has always been one of those websites which I have heard of, but never really taken an interest into looking at any further; which I sincerely regret, because I have been missing out on some lovely clothing! Finally, I understand why the Blogosphere is so obsessed with Romwe.

Undoubtedly, one of my favourite parts of winter is simply the fashion, if I were to be more specific: I love the knitwear! Of course, jumpers are ridiculously comfortable and cosy, but there is something about the colour and consistency of the material which draws my attention. At the moment I find myself particularly drawn to simple block colours and classic cable knits. Jumpers are easy to put together, easy get a hold of and simply so pragmatic. I find that knitwear is feasible to layer with, and it is only accordingly that a jumper is followed with a variety of tartan scarves and boyfriend coats to name but a few!

Love from,

Miss Iffa
xoxo
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Sunday, 13 October 2013

Finally Knitwear


Coat - Topshop (old)
Jumper - TK Maxx
Scarf - Stuart Black 
Jeans - Topshop
Boots - Koi Couture

Hello!

Finally autumn has come and I have an excuse to wear all of my favourite clothes at once and, perhaps most importantly, wear knitwear! I love chunky knits and cable knit sweaters, they're so perfect to just throw on, and not to mention the fact they feel undeniably cosy. I think by now I probably have a jumper in every colour that exists! I picked up this jumper randomly from TK Maxx, it's actually a couple of sizes too large for me, as all the other sizes were sold out; but I definitely don't mind because baggy jumpers just look more slouchy, a look I totally don't mind endorsing in.

Another thing I greatly look forward to every autumn/winter are the boots! This season, chelsea boots seem to be everywhere, I love the sturdiness and understated look chelsea boots can add to an outfit. I'm also looking into purchasing a few knee length boots, just because I feel the colder seasons are incomplete without a good pair of knee length boots. 

And coats! Another thing I greatly look forward to when winter comes definitely has to be outerwear. This classic camel brown boyfriend coat has been a staple for the second year running now. A classic black Zara coat is yet to make its appearance on my blog along with a few other purchases. For me, buying a coat requires much deliberation, every small factor has to be considered before making that fundamental buy. A good coat can really complete an outfit in my opinion. This year round I didn't have to dwell too much on which coat I would choose, I just happened to come across it in where else but Dubai. 

Sorry if this post seems a little rushed, I have been bogged down with lots of college work. I'm attempting an essay on utilitarianism as we speak!

Love from,

Miss Iffa
xoxo
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Tuesday, 17 September 2013

A Blue Dress


Hello!

Recently I attended my best friend's family wedding, and as weddings aren't a daily social event, I thought I would make the effort to look a bit more put together and take a blog post in the process too. The wedding was pretty amazing, to say the least! It was one of those spectacular weddings where everything is executed pretty much perfectly. I am so happy/excited for my best friend, who is now a sister-in-law!

About the dress itself, I adore the deep blue colour with gold detailing, the chiffon fabric fell so light and floaty, it was an absolute dream to wear. The fitting of the dress was unfortunately a little loose, but I guess the whole 'floatiness' of the dress covers that up a little. I love how the whole attention is purely on the dress, no flashy jewellery or statement shoes here, just a blue dress.

I have started college now! I am actually enjoying college life and the subjects I am studying too, although the workload is a lot greater! So if you see I haven't blogged in a while, don't fret, I'm probably just bogged down with lots of work; I have no incentive to give up blogging, I enjoy it so much!

Love from,

Miss Iffa
xoxo
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Saturday, 31 August 2013

Blue Jeans


Top - Monsoon
Jeans - Topshop
Shoes - Promod Dubai
Bag - Zara

Hello!

It has been such a long time since I last blogged! I have been a lot more busier than I first thought, what with holidays, results day, my first day of college next week (!) and endless little tasks to complete, I have found less and less time for blogging! Nevertheless, I'm back with a new post and I also have a few more lined up throughout the week!

I wore this outfit for a casual shopping day with some friends, I love the print on the shirt as well as the cut-off arms too, Monsoon are well known for creating clothing inspired by Indian and Pakistani prints and silhouettes, which I totally appreciate. If only the weather was a little cooler, I would have layered this outfit with a few cardigans, scarves etc. This warm weather has meant my usual cardigan clad self has had to shed a layer, which has resulted in me feeling totally out of place! Although I have enjoyed wearing things I normally wouldn't, I for one can not wait for winter so that I can go back to my normal cardigan/scarf routine.

Love from,

Miss Iffa
xoxo



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Wednesday, 7 August 2013

Life Lately: August


So far, my summer has been a mish-mash of all number of things, as you can probably tell from these pictures. I have recently become obsessed with Arabic calligraphy; one day I just decided to pick up a paint brush and give it a go, the results weren't as bad as I imagined them to be! I love painting, I find it very therapeutic, and after completing one calligraphy piece you feel a great sense of achievement!

I also simply must mention the falafel and halloumi wrap which you can see in one of the pictures, the dish is from Home Sweet Home cafe in Manchester, and it is probably one of the most delicious cafes, with a wide variety of tasty dishes to choose from.

Some recent purchases include some very exciting items from Cartier, which you will probably see more of later on my blog! Also, I was sent this beautiful star bracelet from Street Princess, I love how delicate and dainty it is, and the statement colour combination of black and gold means it can pretty much go with everything!

I hope you are all having a pleasant summer so far, expect more from me (with a Dubai photo diary) soon!

Love from,

Miss Iffa
xoxo
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Tuesday, 30 July 2013

Monochrome


Shirt - Topshop
Trousers - H&M
Shoes - Kurt Geiger
Bag - Zara
Chain - Obsession Jewellers (Canada)

Hello!

Long time, no blog! I have been surprisingly busy lately and have thus not found the time to blog as much as I would've liked to. These holidays are moving surprisingly quickly too! 

Onto the actual outfit, I've recently been loving the sports luxe trend, I think the gold hi-tops probably started the interest for me. I adore the whole slouchy look to this outfit, which was what I was aiming for. Despite it being summer, black and white are probably still my favourite colours at the moment, this heat certainly won't stop me from wearing them!

I hope you are all having a lovely summer so far!

Love from,

Miss Iffa
xoxo
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Thursday, 11 July 2013

What I Wore: Prom


Dress - Coast (came with no sleeves)
Shoes - Kurt Geiger
Jewellery - Kyles, Cartier

Hello!

During last week was what was considered by students to be the "staple event of the year": our prom. The lead-up to prom was a blur of appointments, decisions and hence inevitably indecisiveness; albeit it would be wrong if I denied that the whole lead-up was somewhat enjoyable at the same time too.

Regarding what I wore, the original dress actually came with no sleeves, and if I'm truly honest I felt that without the sleeves, the dress looked quite plain, so I had tailor-made sleeves added to the dress. I also wore traditional Indian jewellery with the dress, just because I love Indian jewellery! The choker-style necklace for me was definitely a homage to my culture, as well as just something unique which made the outfit itself stand out. The best part of prom was probably seeing all of my friends dressed up for the occasion, especially because I haven't seen many of my friends for a while now.

Since my exams have been over, I thought I would have lots of time on my hands to do whatever I wish and primarily for me that meant blogging! Unfortunately, however, I am busier than I thought would be, and am hence struggling to find the time to regain my blogging mojo. Nevertheless, I will continue to post on my blog as regularly as I can, because I really am passionate about blogging and I have the best bunch of readers that I would never ever want to leave!

Love from,

Miss Iffa
xoxo
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